I'm going to try to make this a somewhat short blog. I'm half asleep already and have burnt half of the dinner. I finished my favorite book associated with this course, FFF. I love this book so much, as I have said a few times before. So, anyways, chapter 10 kinda made me mad.
First, I was mad at myself. I visited my sisters farm this weekend and as I watched my nephew load wood for the wood stove and do other farm stuff I actually thought 'man, he's really all boy.' Then, in my head, I yelled at myself for thinking that. I can load wood and do other farm duties. I'm not "all boy."
Next, I was mad at the chapter. The sentence "Especially now, in a world where what it means to be "a man" has the potential to damage both men and women." I've lived this and it damaged me. That one sentence just made me so mad. It brought that night back and it was horrible.
A lot of this reminded me of my final project. She related a lot to what some men believe women should be like. She mentions how Asian women are considered real women because they stick to the traditional gender roles and that this is what men really want in life. They also don't want to grow up. Now instead of providing for a family and having a good job, you have to forever be looking out for the ladies, taking in the game with the guys and drinking all night long.
Now, men should be included in the feminist movement. I think they're a vital part. How are we ever really going to reach equality if we don't have the support of the other side. Like Jessica Valenti said "We can't have a fully successful feminism if we're missing half the population."
As for chapter 14. I loved that. It was such a great ending including the tips. It was something I needed too. I had the same thought many times while reading the book; 'what am I supposed to do with all this information?'
You should be happy to know that I'm passing this book off to my 16 year old sister. I'm hoping she loves it as much as I do.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Thursday, November 19, 2009
From Chastity to Chaz
AOLS headlines have been keeping up the recent sex changed of Sonny and Chers daughter. I'm not a very big fan of them but the headline from the article caught my eye.
Here's the link for you to read.
http://www.popeater.com/2009/11/19/chaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview/?icid=main|main|dl2|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.popeater.com%2F2009%2F11%2F19%2Fchaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview%2F
Here's the link for you to read.
http://www.popeater.com/2009/11/19/chaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview/?icid=main|main|dl2|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.popeater.com%2F2009%2F11%2F19%2Fchaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview%2F
An Unexpected Role Model
With the assignment we are doing in class I decided to fill my little of free time today looking up feminist role models. Pippi Longstocking. Not at all what I would think when I think feminism. Sure I read her when I was little, I may have even dressed up as her for Halloween, but thinking back it was just a character. I didn't believe that she was really a feminist role model until after I read an article about it. Here's a excerpt:
There is a sign in a shop window in the small town where she lives that reads, “DO YOU SUFFER FROM FRECKLES?” Pippi doesn’t. She is not interested in the anti-freckle cream on offer but nevertheless goes into the shop to make her position clear.
“No, I don’t suffer from freckles,” she declares. “But my dear child,” says the startled assistant, “your whole face is covered in them.” “I know,” says Pippi, “but I don’t suffer from them. I like them. Good morning!”
And here's the link.
http://www.sweden.se/pippi
There is a sign in a shop window in the small town where she lives that reads, “DO YOU SUFFER FROM FRECKLES?” Pippi doesn’t. She is not interested in the anti-freckle cream on offer but nevertheless goes into the shop to make her position clear.
“No, I don’t suffer from freckles,” she declares. “But my dear child,” says the startled assistant, “your whole face is covered in them.” “I know,” says Pippi, “but I don’t suffer from them. I like them. Good morning!”
And here's the link.
http://www.sweden.se/pippi
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
FFF Pop Culture Gone Wild
My conversation with my boyfriend before writing this blog:
Me: Would you say I'm hot?
Him: No
Me (after I gave him the 'oh buddy you just made a big mistake' stare): why not?
Him: You're cute, but that's better than hot.
Me: What do you mean?
Him: Well, cute is datable and hot is hit it and quit it.
If these hot girls are just purely for 'hit it and quit it;' and they know it; what is even the point of the extra make up, the short skirts and breast implants? Women do it because it's horrible to be the 'ugly' girl. Women are trying to be perfect for that one night, to be accessible. Short skirts are accessible and that's just what men are looking for.
Women need to start living for women. I know that I've been in the spot of making myself look better to get a guys attention. But, I've also been in a relationship for three and a half years. I know how amazing it feels to have someone look forward to see you in the morning, so matter if you have bed head and bags under your eyes. I think there's a better chance of a guy being disgusted by the one night stands morning look then the boyfriend of three years. I know it's hard to listen to someone say that you look beautiful when your whole look just doesn't look for you. Pop culture is something that every woman tries to live up to, but it's also something that hinders are ability to love our real self. I real self under the layers of make up and the too short skirts in our closet. The real jeans and t shirts us. We need to look past pop culture and love our true selves.
Me: Would you say I'm hot?
Him: No
Me (after I gave him the 'oh buddy you just made a big mistake' stare): why not?
Him: You're cute, but that's better than hot.
Me: What do you mean?
Him: Well, cute is datable and hot is hit it and quit it.
If these hot girls are just purely for 'hit it and quit it;' and they know it; what is even the point of the extra make up, the short skirts and breast implants? Women do it because it's horrible to be the 'ugly' girl. Women are trying to be perfect for that one night, to be accessible. Short skirts are accessible and that's just what men are looking for.
Women need to start living for women. I know that I've been in the spot of making myself look better to get a guys attention. But, I've also been in a relationship for three and a half years. I know how amazing it feels to have someone look forward to see you in the morning, so matter if you have bed head and bags under your eyes. I think there's a better chance of a guy being disgusted by the one night stands morning look then the boyfriend of three years. I know it's hard to listen to someone say that you look beautiful when your whole look just doesn't look for you. Pop culture is something that every woman tries to live up to, but it's also something that hinders are ability to love our real self. I real self under the layers of make up and the too short skirts in our closet. The real jeans and t shirts us. We need to look past pop culture and love our true selves.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Designer Vaginas: Worth the Pain?
While I was stumbing around the internet I was brought to a website that I often get sent to, MomLogic. Why i sent to this I don't know, but most of the times I do it works out for the best. Like tonight. The page I was sent to was uninteresting, so I clicked the link to take me to the Love and Relationships page. The title of article caught my; Designer Vaginas: Worth the Pain? My answer: Nope. Plus, it could cause major problems during childbirth, including losing the baby.
Here's the link to the article:
http://www.momlogic.com/2009/11/designer_vaginas_are_dangerous_labioplasty.php
Here's the link to the article:
http://www.momlogic.com/2009/11/designer_vaginas_are_dangerous_labioplasty.php
Friday, November 13, 2009
Today sucks.
Last night I was sick and today I woke up feeling worse. The only rooms with mirrors is the bathroom and every time I go in I look at myself and say "Ugh, I look horrible today. I have bags under my eyes and my hairs a mess. Ew." It's not even that I look so bad, I'm just sick. No ones going to see me today except my boyfriend and he's sick too.
I hate this.
I hate this.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Teen Health - Plastic Surgery
I decided to look more into teens and plastic surgery. I googled it and found this website about teen health. I found three and the question 'Is Plastic Surgery the Right Choice?' particularly interesting. It mentions how much the doctors mentor the teens to make sure they are really ready for this big change. But enough, I'll let you read about it by yourself.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/beautiful/plastic_surgery.html#
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/beautiful/plastic_surgery.html#
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Do you feel beautiful today?
I admit it. I have hated my body. I have despised it. I have dreamed and wished and hoped that I looked better. I have also been the person to stand in front of a mirror and vow that I will love my body forever more. But, I've broken it all of those time. I'm very much not alone in this feeling.
I'm not the type of girl that goes through the enormous pain to look beautiful. Sure there are those days that I do a little bit extra. Mascara. That's my secret. I never wear make up, except maybe a little cover up. But, if I slather on mascara I instantly feel more beautiful. I don't suffer for beauty, except for the occasional high heel.
I have three sisters, so I've been through the 'does this make my butt look fat?' and 'oh man, I need to diet now!' things so many times. My younger sister is the worst. She is incredibly skinny and I have been asked numerous amounts of time if she is sick. As far as I know she is not. She eats the most food I have ever seen, but gains no weight. It's incredible really. She also works painstakingly to look good. She is late leaving every morning because she has to add that little bit more make up or correct a loose hair.
I believe the reason for this 'I've got to make myself look amazing' is related a lot to what other people will think of you. I read Full Frontal Feminism, my favorite, on Sunday night. She mentions being called ugly. This hurts. I've been called ugly and it seriously hurts. What a horrible thing to call anyone. It makes you think about what you've done to deserve that. It also makes you want to change everything about yourself. Jessica Valenti mentions begging her parents for a nose job. In all seriousness this is real now. A lot of younger and younger people are getting "jobs" done to make their self more beautiful. Teenagers are getting these as gifts. It's incredible. I wasn't ever directly told growing up, but I knew that it wasn't how you looked that counted. I feel like that's like getting a gift and being told it's the thought that counts. If it's the inside that counts why are Revlon, Cover Girl and all other make up companies making so much money from women who insist on making the outside look better?
You're all beautiful on the inside and outside. You don't really need make up or high heels. So throw on your favorite sweats and put your feet up. Believe me, you'll feel better than ever.
I'm not the type of girl that goes through the enormous pain to look beautiful. Sure there are those days that I do a little bit extra. Mascara. That's my secret. I never wear make up, except maybe a little cover up. But, if I slather on mascara I instantly feel more beautiful. I don't suffer for beauty, except for the occasional high heel.
I have three sisters, so I've been through the 'does this make my butt look fat?' and 'oh man, I need to diet now!' things so many times. My younger sister is the worst. She is incredibly skinny and I have been asked numerous amounts of time if she is sick. As far as I know she is not. She eats the most food I have ever seen, but gains no weight. It's incredible really. She also works painstakingly to look good. She is late leaving every morning because she has to add that little bit more make up or correct a loose hair.
I believe the reason for this 'I've got to make myself look amazing' is related a lot to what other people will think of you. I read Full Frontal Feminism, my favorite, on Sunday night. She mentions being called ugly. This hurts. I've been called ugly and it seriously hurts. What a horrible thing to call anyone. It makes you think about what you've done to deserve that. It also makes you want to change everything about yourself. Jessica Valenti mentions begging her parents for a nose job. In all seriousness this is real now. A lot of younger and younger people are getting "jobs" done to make their self more beautiful. Teenagers are getting these as gifts. It's incredible. I wasn't ever directly told growing up, but I knew that it wasn't how you looked that counted. I feel like that's like getting a gift and being told it's the thought that counts. If it's the inside that counts why are Revlon, Cover Girl and all other make up companies making so much money from women who insist on making the outside look better?
You're all beautiful on the inside and outside. You don't really need make up or high heels. So throw on your favorite sweats and put your feet up. Believe me, you'll feel better than ever.
Friday, November 6, 2009
More than another?
When I'm bored and don't have a clue what to blog about I normally go to Yahoo Answers and see what people are asking. This morning when I realized I was super busy this week and forgot to do my blogs, I logged on to Yahoo Answers. I found a person asking "Are some women more equal than other women?" This kind of related to another blog I wrote asking if I could possibly be more monogamous than another person. The more info part of the question says:
For instance, the media will pay a lot of attention if a young blonde white woman is murdered by her father or brother. Yet if the same thing happens to a Middle Eastern or South Asian woman in the same country, the media is very quiet about it, if they pay any attention at all.
Does this mean that some women are more equal than others, or that some women are less equal than other women?
Feminists and equalists, please explain this to me...
I wouldn't say that women are more equal, but I would say that some women get a lot more attention. I feel like it's a media thing though. There's a typical person the media wants to show. Blond white women are popular, I don't know why. But, I've seen a lot of things with them. I wouldn't say they are more equal than any other woman though.
How would you answer the question?
For instance, the media will pay a lot of attention if a young blonde white woman is murdered by her father or brother. Yet if the same thing happens to a Middle Eastern or South Asian woman in the same country, the media is very quiet about it, if they pay any attention at all.
Does this mean that some women are more equal than others, or that some women are less equal than other women?
Feminists and equalists, please explain this to me...
I wouldn't say that women are more equal, but I would say that some women get a lot more attention. I feel like it's a media thing though. There's a typical person the media wants to show. Blond white women are popular, I don't know why. But, I've seen a lot of things with them. I wouldn't say they are more equal than any other woman though.
How would you answer the question?
In the beginning...
While reading for my history class this morning, I came across the chapter summary for Women's Rights :
Women's Rights Activists
Putting their religious ideas into practice, women constituted the core membership of most reform groups, such as peace, temperance, and antislavery societies. Their participation taught them basic political skills, and in 1848, the reformers Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucretia Mott organized an independent movement for women's rights. They launched their campaign at a convention at Seneca Falls, New York. The Declaration of Sentiments issued by this gathering charged that history was fraught with male abuse of women and that the goal of such injury was "the establishment of an absolute tyranny" over women. The Declaration went on to demand universal female suffrage. Although it was ridiculed, the manifesto laid the foundation for the women's rights movement.
I thought this was pretty interesting. I haven't read much about womens rights in my history class, so I look at this as the beginning.
Women's Rights Activists
Putting their religious ideas into practice, women constituted the core membership of most reform groups, such as peace, temperance, and antislavery societies. Their participation taught them basic political skills, and in 1848, the reformers Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucretia Mott organized an independent movement for women's rights. They launched their campaign at a convention at Seneca Falls, New York. The Declaration of Sentiments issued by this gathering charged that history was fraught with male abuse of women and that the goal of such injury was "the establishment of an absolute tyranny" over women. The Declaration went on to demand universal female suffrage. Although it was ridiculed, the manifesto laid the foundation for the women's rights movement.
I thought this was pretty interesting. I haven't read much about womens rights in my history class, so I look at this as the beginning.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Womens Reproductive Rights
The article My Fight for Birth Control was particularly touching. I found it incredibly sad, but I know that's probably something that happens significantly less today than when this article was written.When a friend in high school had to go to Planned Parenthood, she asked me to go with her for she didn't have to go alone. I was a little nervous at first, as I didn't really know what to expect. The first room we went into wasn't bad; just like a normal doctors waiting room. But, the next one was probably one of the worst times of my life. My friend had to visit their pharmacy and go back with a doctor. The only seats left in the second room were two behind a woman and what I presumed to be her boyfriend. The woman was sobbing, she cried the whole time. Towards the end of our visit I heard her mention an abortion. I'm pro choice and I understood that this was probably best for them or they wouldn't be doing it, but it just ripped my heart apart.
The birth control article relates a lot to Jessica Valenti's chapter If These Uterine Walls Could Talk, which also talks about reproductive rights. In this chapter she talks about a few different birth control options including Emergency Contraceptive (EC) and condoms. She mentions not being able to get birth control on college campus. If I remember correctly, we should consider ourselves lucky. VCUs Students Health Services lays out what they offer : http://www.students.vcu.edu/health/clinics/ . They even offer a link to www.arhp.org, which has an interactive tool to help you choose a method of birth control that is right for you. They ask you questions about your sexual activity and any other diseases you have had and you are supposed to print out your results and bring to the appointment with your doctor to discuss what your possibilities are. They also offer condoms that are available in their examine rooms.
I feel like our birth control rights are our options, but we must also help towards the birth control rights of all women for we will be able to have our own options. Like Jessica Valenti ends her fifth chapter: The only question is - what will you do?
The birth control article relates a lot to Jessica Valenti's chapter If These Uterine Walls Could Talk, which also talks about reproductive rights. In this chapter she talks about a few different birth control options including Emergency Contraceptive (EC) and condoms. She mentions not being able to get birth control on college campus. If I remember correctly, we should consider ourselves lucky. VCUs Students Health Services lays out what they offer : http://www.students.vcu.edu/health/clinics/ . They even offer a link to www.arhp.org, which has an interactive tool to help you choose a method of birth control that is right for you. They ask you questions about your sexual activity and any other diseases you have had and you are supposed to print out your results and bring to the appointment with your doctor to discuss what your possibilities are. They also offer condoms that are available in their examine rooms.
I feel like our birth control rights are our options, but we must also help towards the birth control rights of all women for we will be able to have our own options. Like Jessica Valenti ends her fifth chapter: The only question is - what will you do?
Friday, October 30, 2009
Book
I know I'm a little late on this post, but I fell asleep last night. Anyways, here's a book review I found that looks pretty cool.
http://www.elle.com/Pop-Culture/Movies-TV-Music-Books/Book-Release-Girldrive
I just might have to buy this one...
http://www.elle.com/Pop-Culture/Movies-TV-Music-Books/Book-Release-Girldrive
I just might have to buy this one...
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Can someone be more of a monogamist than someone else?
While my boyfriend and I were out to lunch today I was telling him about the Womens Studies class I'm taking and for the millionth time how much I like it. We were discussing the audio clip that we heard in class and that led to the topic of monogamy. He said I was of a monogamist than he was. I feel like because we are together in the relationship and have never strayed from each other, that we are equal. I don't understand, what could make me more monogamist than him? I don't exactly remember what we talked about after that because I was thinking 'what?' and totally tuned out. Maybe I'll take this up with him later to see what he meant.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Women's Rights in the Middle East
I may be naive, but I never knew that women in the Middle East had as many rights as they do. I know that sounds horrible.I guess before this class I never bothered to learn about their rights and probably would have never read this article if it wasn't assigned. But, honestly I'm glad I read it. It gave me a new perspective so to speak.
The first part that hit close to home was the education part; the "proof of unchastity" as a valid reason for expulsion.This is absolutely ridiculous! I'm studying to be a teacher, so anything related to education is very important to me. I cannot even begin to explain how wrong this is. I'm sure any girl who reads this understands what I mean. Even if a girl was seen walking with a guy, they were tested. Can you imagine if this was to happen now in the United States?! There would be a significant reduction of the student body in almost every middle and high school in America. Luckily in 2002, this was banned. Hopefully for good!
The second part that made me angry was the North and South Yemen part. I can't decide whether I feel worse for the Northern Yemen women or the Southern Yemen women. Southern Yemen women actually had a chance with the change in laws about marriage and divorce laws, but then they were taken away. I feel bad for them. But, on the other hand, you have the Northern Yemen women who see a glimmer of hope in what's happening in the south, but then quickly see what they could have had fade away again.
It's like that for many of the women in the Middle East; they see the one glimmer of hope and then see it taken away. But, fortunately, the increase in women's groups there and the changing of the attitude towards sexuality are changing what they have grown to know. Let's just hope it's more than a glimmer of hope this time.
The first part that hit close to home was the education part; the "proof of unchastity" as a valid reason for expulsion.This is absolutely ridiculous! I'm studying to be a teacher, so anything related to education is very important to me. I cannot even begin to explain how wrong this is. I'm sure any girl who reads this understands what I mean. Even if a girl was seen walking with a guy, they were tested. Can you imagine if this was to happen now in the United States?! There would be a significant reduction of the student body in almost every middle and high school in America. Luckily in 2002, this was banned. Hopefully for good!
The second part that made me angry was the North and South Yemen part. I can't decide whether I feel worse for the Northern Yemen women or the Southern Yemen women. Southern Yemen women actually had a chance with the change in laws about marriage and divorce laws, but then they were taken away. I feel bad for them. But, on the other hand, you have the Northern Yemen women who see a glimmer of hope in what's happening in the south, but then quickly see what they could have had fade away again.
It's like that for many of the women in the Middle East; they see the one glimmer of hope and then see it taken away. But, fortunately, the increase in women's groups there and the changing of the attitude towards sexuality are changing what they have grown to know. Let's just hope it's more than a glimmer of hope this time.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Cosmopolitan
I was thinking about what I should write my third blog about this week. I thought I'd check out my Cosmopolitan magazine to what somewhat degrading things are on the cover. I love that magazine, but I think that you should be yourself on a date instead of making sure you say 'what he's dying to hear during a date!' A recent article title... While I was flipping through the October 2009 issue I found an article called Abducted By A Monster, which was advertised as How She Outsmarted a Brutal Rapist on the cover. I read it and it scared me. So much in fact that when the phone rang I jumped. I was going to copy the link for the article on here, but I can't find it on their website. But, while searching for it I found this, http://www.cosmopolitan.com/advice/tips/obama-stance-on-womens-rights?click=main_sr . Not exactly what I was looking for, but I had no idea about his issues on this. I thought it would be good to post. Anyways, I have the magazine with the article if anyone wants to see it.
Gender Equality
Talking about Yahoo Answers in class the other day inspired me to check out some of the questions on the Womens Studies page. I was reading and answering questions when I came this one : what happened to the traditional gender roles. Because I've always wanted to be a housewife, you know taking all day to get ready for my husband to come home, slaving over a really nice dinner, cleaning everything, I thought I should check it out. I didn't bother to answer because I found one answer that I was more focused on. Jas B said:
Traditional gender roles treated women as second class citizens.
You can call it traditional gender roles but the reality was that this was the oppression of women.
As another person has said women realized during the second world war when the men were away fighting and they had to work in the factories, as engineers and mechanics and all the other jobs which had been traditionally men's work that they were just as capable and they liked the independence it gave them to earn their own money.
Then after the war when women were told to go back into the homes, they decided there was more to life than babies, dishes and happy husbands. They felt that their contribution to the war effort had been forgotten and realized how constricting their lives were.
Women got sick of being treated as second class citizens and demanded changes in society and to all the laws which did not treat them as equal to men.
God had nothing to do with it. it's about equality.
The last part relates to a on going conversation between the other people. Anyways, this made this about a book I got from my grandma. It's Emily Post's Pocket Book of Etiquette. It was published in 1965. I find it absolutely hilarious to read. The majority of the book it dated, but the information is helpful. Part Fourteen is the last part in the book, but the first part I read. Page 462: A Happy Marriage. The last two sentences of the third paragraph of The Wife's Part is my absolute favorite line, just because it's so bad. ' And the wife who sees her husband off to work in a dirty bathrobe, with hair uncombed and face unwashed, send him off with a thoroughly unflattering picture of her in his mind. He may find his neat, efficient, pretty secretary more appealing than his unkempt, uncaring wife!' What a horrible thing to write! If your ugly, expect your husband to be cheating on you with his secretary. Ugh.
I went on to read The Husband's Part and one paragraph stood out to me. ' The husband that keeps his wife company in the kitchen while she is finishing the dinner preparations and gives a helping hand with the dishes after dinner, rather than retiring to the TV set or his newspaper, will find himself more repaid by his appreciative wife.' This is like what we talked about in class. Are we (women) supposed to sleep with a guy because he buys us dinner? So, are we supposed to 'pay' our husbands for actually helping us out in the kitchen? I thought a relationship was a partnership, a team, not I'll help with the dishes only because you'll have sex with me for. I think if I ever had a guy say that to me, I'd drop the dish rag then and there and those dishes would never get done.
After reading certain parts of this book, it made me realize this all has come a long way. There's more to life than having babies, keeping husbands happy and doing dishes.
Traditional gender roles treated women as second class citizens.
You can call it traditional gender roles but the reality was that this was the oppression of women.
As another person has said women realized during the second world war when the men were away fighting and they had to work in the factories, as engineers and mechanics and all the other jobs which had been traditionally men's work that they were just as capable and they liked the independence it gave them to earn their own money.
Then after the war when women were told to go back into the homes, they decided there was more to life than babies, dishes and happy husbands. They felt that their contribution to the war effort had been forgotten and realized how constricting their lives were.
Women got sick of being treated as second class citizens and demanded changes in society and to all the laws which did not treat them as equal to men.
God had nothing to do with it. it's about equality.
The last part relates to a on going conversation between the other people. Anyways, this made this about a book I got from my grandma. It's Emily Post's Pocket Book of Etiquette. It was published in 1965. I find it absolutely hilarious to read. The majority of the book it dated, but the information is helpful. Part Fourteen is the last part in the book, but the first part I read. Page 462: A Happy Marriage. The last two sentences of the third paragraph of The Wife's Part is my absolute favorite line, just because it's so bad. ' And the wife who sees her husband off to work in a dirty bathrobe, with hair uncombed and face unwashed, send him off with a thoroughly unflattering picture of her in his mind. He may find his neat, efficient, pretty secretary more appealing than his unkempt, uncaring wife!' What a horrible thing to write! If your ugly, expect your husband to be cheating on you with his secretary. Ugh.
I went on to read The Husband's Part and one paragraph stood out to me. ' The husband that keeps his wife company in the kitchen while she is finishing the dinner preparations and gives a helping hand with the dishes after dinner, rather than retiring to the TV set or his newspaper, will find himself more repaid by his appreciative wife.' This is like what we talked about in class. Are we (women) supposed to sleep with a guy because he buys us dinner? So, are we supposed to 'pay' our husbands for actually helping us out in the kitchen? I thought a relationship was a partnership, a team, not I'll help with the dishes only because you'll have sex with me for. I think if I ever had a guy say that to me, I'd drop the dish rag then and there and those dishes would never get done.
After reading certain parts of this book, it made me realize this all has come a long way. There's more to life than having babies, keeping husbands happy and doing dishes.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
"Rape Schedule"
When I read this chapter of Full Frontal Feminism I was astonished. It also made me quite scared. Who do I know that would do something like that? I don't even want to think about it.
When reading about the "rape schedule" my first thought was I don't have one of those, but really the more I thought about the more I realized I do. First, I have extra locks. My doors came with just a bold, but my dad installed extra chains and a peephole on both the front and back doors. All my windows, with the exception of my bathroom one, has a lock on it. I don't want to turn out liek the woman in the hypothetical situation. My keys are dropped in my backpack when I leave my apartment, but the second we're released from class they're in my pocket. I try my best to stay out of the allies. Sometimes that's very hard though. If I have to walk I always talk on the phone. I read once that it would be better to not talk on the phone, but I just feel safer doing it. I normally call my dad or older sister, but I always tell them which ally I'm in just in case something happens. I also got the gene of being overly aware from my dad which makes me watch everyone I walk near just in case.
I don't think the rape schedule is such a bad thing. It's better to keep an eye out and make sure you get home alright. You can lock your doors and know your safe, that you've made through another day without being raped. You can take self defense classes ( the VCU police offer one for free!--> http://www.vcu.edu/police/rad.html) and you can buy pepper spray to try to ward off predators. It's up to us to protect ourselves and it's up to us to learn us much as we can to not only protect ourselves, but to help others that have either been hurt already or help educated others.
Other note: I sell Avon and before I started selling I had no idea how much they funded to help not only Breast Cancer, but Domestic Violence too. We sell a Empowerment necklace and bracelet. All the money is donated to the fund against domestic violence.
When reading about the "rape schedule" my first thought was I don't have one of those, but really the more I thought about the more I realized I do. First, I have extra locks. My doors came with just a bold, but my dad installed extra chains and a peephole on both the front and back doors. All my windows, with the exception of my bathroom one, has a lock on it. I don't want to turn out liek the woman in the hypothetical situation. My keys are dropped in my backpack when I leave my apartment, but the second we're released from class they're in my pocket. I try my best to stay out of the allies. Sometimes that's very hard though. If I have to walk I always talk on the phone. I read once that it would be better to not talk on the phone, but I just feel safer doing it. I normally call my dad or older sister, but I always tell them which ally I'm in just in case something happens. I also got the gene of being overly aware from my dad which makes me watch everyone I walk near just in case.
I don't think the rape schedule is such a bad thing. It's better to keep an eye out and make sure you get home alright. You can lock your doors and know your safe, that you've made through another day without being raped. You can take self defense classes ( the VCU police offer one for free!--> http://www.vcu.edu/police/rad.html) and you can buy pepper spray to try to ward off predators. It's up to us to protect ourselves and it's up to us to learn us much as we can to not only protect ourselves, but to help others that have either been hurt already or help educated others.
Other note: I sell Avon and before I started selling I had no idea how much they funded to help not only Breast Cancer, but Domestic Violence too. We sell a Empowerment necklace and bracelet. All the money is donated to the fund against domestic violence.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Guide for Hiring Women
I was stumbling around the internet and came across this 1943 Guide for Hiring Women.
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Two Sexes Are Not Enough
Before I started reading this, I only thought that there were two sexes and that everybody had to fit into one of the two categories. You're either male or your female. I never really thought that we needed anymore and we couldn't possible have any less, so I never thought about it.
My best friend got pregnant right out of high school and we would often discuss what we thought the sex of the baby would be, so during a lunch date I thought I'd ask my boyfriends opinion. Our conversation went something along the lines of this:
"So, Bryan, let's take bets on the sex of Laurens baby. I think it's going to be a boy. What do you think?"
"I think it's going to be a hermaphrodite. What do I get if I win?"
I thought his answer was ridiculous. Babies are girls or boys. Blue or pink.
It wasn't until I read this article that it really made me think. There doesn't have to be just two sexes. There are so many different types of people in the world, we can't all fit into only two categories. I think it would be sensible to open the world to different possibilities and open arms to include everyone. Opening the world to numerous sexes will eventually lead us closer to equality, maybe not fully but creating more than one will be a giant step in the right direction.
( We both lost the bet. Mikayla Paige was born on November 11, 2008.)
My best friend got pregnant right out of high school and we would often discuss what we thought the sex of the baby would be, so during a lunch date I thought I'd ask my boyfriends opinion. Our conversation went something along the lines of this:
"So, Bryan, let's take bets on the sex of Laurens baby. I think it's going to be a boy. What do you think?"
"I think it's going to be a hermaphrodite. What do I get if I win?"
I thought his answer was ridiculous. Babies are girls or boys. Blue or pink.
It wasn't until I read this article that it really made me think. There doesn't have to be just two sexes. There are so many different types of people in the world, we can't all fit into only two categories. I think it would be sensible to open the world to different possibilities and open arms to include everyone. Opening the world to numerous sexes will eventually lead us closer to equality, maybe not fully but creating more than one will be a giant step in the right direction.
( We both lost the bet. Mikayla Paige was born on November 11, 2008.)
Thursday, October 8, 2009
DQs
I was reviewing chapter 7s intro before making dinner tonight and thought of some questions.
Why do you think birthrates are declining in numerous parts of the world? I would have thought the opposite...
I thought about the Learning Activity on page 380. It asks you to conduct interviews of dorm mates or people around you. I only have me and my boyfriend right now. I'll just answer. It asks who you consider family. Well, I consider first my parents, sisters, cousins, etc family. I had a best friend growing up who became family, like another sister and her family became my family. When I started dating Bryan he quickly became family. After I met his family and spent more and more time with them they became my family. We don't all live together, that would probably be one cramped house. My dad took care of me and my family, but my mom was in charge of the financial well-being because she was the bread winner. I'm not so sure how to answer the extended question family. We (my immediate family) are attached to our extended family.
So, can any of you answer the questions for we can compare?
Ok, I ran out of time. I have to make dinner.
Why do you think birthrates are declining in numerous parts of the world? I would have thought the opposite...
I thought about the Learning Activity on page 380. It asks you to conduct interviews of dorm mates or people around you. I only have me and my boyfriend right now. I'll just answer. It asks who you consider family. Well, I consider first my parents, sisters, cousins, etc family. I had a best friend growing up who became family, like another sister and her family became my family. When I started dating Bryan he quickly became family. After I met his family and spent more and more time with them they became my family. We don't all live together, that would probably be one cramped house. My dad took care of me and my family, but my mom was in charge of the financial well-being because she was the bread winner. I'm not so sure how to answer the extended question family. We (my immediate family) are attached to our extended family.
So, can any of you answer the questions for we can compare?
Ok, I ran out of time. I have to make dinner.
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