"Don't be such a girl"

I'm going to try to make this a somewhat short blog. I'm half asleep already and have burnt half of the dinner. I finished my favorite book associated with this course, FFF. I love this book so much, as I have said a few times before. So, anyways, chapter 10 kinda made me mad.
First, I was mad at myself. I visited my sisters farm this weekend and as I watched my nephew load wood for the wood stove and do other farm stuff I actually thought 'man, he's really all boy.' Then, in my head, I yelled at myself for thinking that. I can load wood and do other farm duties. I'm not "all boy."

Next, I was mad at the chapter. The sentence "Especially now, in a world where what it means to be "a man" has the potential to damage both men and women." I've lived this and it damaged me. That one sentence just made me so mad. It brought that night back and it was horrible.

A lot of this reminded me of my final project. She related a lot to what some men believe women should be like. She mentions how Asian women are considered real women because they stick to the traditional gender roles and that this is what men really want in life. They also don't want to grow up. Now instead of providing for a family and having a good job, you have to forever be looking out for the ladies, taking in the game with the guys and drinking all night long.

Now, men should be included in the feminist movement. I think they're a vital part. How are we ever really going to reach equality if we don't have the support of the other side. Like Jessica Valenti said "We can't have a fully successful feminism if we're missing half the population."

As for chapter 14. I loved that. It was such a great ending including the tips. It was something I needed too. I had the same thought many times while reading the book; 'what am I supposed to do with all this information?'

You should  be happy to know that I'm passing this book off to my 16 year old sister. I'm hoping she loves it as much as I do.

From Chastity to Chaz

AOLS headlines have been keeping up the recent sex changed of Sonny and Chers daughter. I'm not a very big fan of them but the headline from the article caught my eye.

Here's the link for you to read.

http://www.popeater.com/2009/11/19/chaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview/?icid=main|main|dl2|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.popeater.com%2F2009%2F11%2F19%2Fchaz-bono-gma-good-morning-america-interview%2F

An Unexpected Role Model

With the assignment we are doing in class I decided to fill my little of free time today looking up feminist role models. Pippi Longstocking. Not at all what I would think when I think feminism. Sure I read her when I was little, I may have even dressed up as her for Halloween, but thinking back it was just a character. I didn't believe that she was really a feminist role model until after I read an article about it. Here's a excerpt:

There is a sign in a shop window in the small town where she lives that reads, “DO YOU SUFFER FROM FRECKLES?” Pippi doesn’t. She is not interested in the anti-freckle cream on offer but nevertheless goes into the shop to make her position clear.
“No, I don’t suffer from freckles,” she declares. “But my dear child,” says the startled assistant, “your whole face is covered in them.” “I know,” says Pippi, “but I don’t suffer from them. I like them. Good morning!”

And here's the link.

http://www.sweden.se/pippi

FFF Pop Culture Gone Wild

My conversation with my boyfriend before writing this blog:
Me: Would you say I'm hot?
Him: No
Me (after I gave him the 'oh buddy you just made a big mistake' stare): why not?
Him: You're cute, but that's better than hot.
Me: What do you mean?
Him: Well, cute is datable and hot is hit it and quit it.

If these hot girls are just purely for 'hit it and quit it;' and they know it; what is even the point of the extra make up, the short skirts and breast implants? Women do it because it's horrible to be the 'ugly' girl. Women are trying to be perfect for that one night, to be accessible. Short skirts are accessible and that's just what men are looking for.

Women need to start living for women. I know that I've been in the spot of making myself look better to get a guys attention. But, I've also been in a relationship for three and a half years. I know how amazing it feels to have someone look forward to see you in the morning, so matter if you have bed head and bags under your eyes. I think there's a better chance of a guy being disgusted by the one night stands morning look then the boyfriend of three years. I know it's hard to listen to someone say that you look beautiful when your whole look just doesn't look for you. Pop culture is something that every woman tries to live up to, but it's also something that hinders are ability to love our real self. I real self under the layers of make up and the too short skirts in our closet. The real jeans and t shirts us. We need to look past pop culture and love our true selves.

Designer Vaginas: Worth the Pain?

While I was stumbing around the internet I was brought to a website that I often get sent to, MomLogic. Why i sent to this I don't know, but most of the times I do it works out for the best. Like tonight. The page I was sent to was uninteresting, so I clicked the link to take me to the Love and Relationships page. The title of article caught my; Designer Vaginas: Worth the Pain? My answer: Nope. Plus, it could cause major problems during childbirth, including losing the baby.

Here's the link to the article:

http://www.momlogic.com/2009/11/designer_vaginas_are_dangerous_labioplasty.php

Today sucks.

Last night I was sick and today I woke up feeling worse. The only rooms with mirrors is the bathroom and every time I go in I look at myself and say "Ugh, I look horrible today. I have bags under my eyes and my hairs a mess. Ew." It's not even that I look so bad, I'm just sick. No ones going to see me today except my boyfriend and he's sick too.

I hate this.

Teen Health - Plastic Surgery

I decided to look more into teens and plastic surgery. I googled it and found this website about teen health. I found three and the question 'Is Plastic Surgery the Right Choice?' particularly interesting. It mentions how much the doctors mentor the teens to make sure they are really ready for this big change. But enough, I'll let you read about it by yourself.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/beautiful/plastic_surgery.html#